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Wisdom in Living
EXPERIENCING OF LIFE RECIPES
TAO WISDOM IA ANTI-AGING
Tao wisdom is anti-aging in that it provides a blueprint for living to 100 and beyond.
An empty mind is more than just "thinking out of the box": it is reverse thinking to create your own box of thinking. An empty mindset originated from Lao Tzu, the author of Tao Te Ching, the ancient classic on human wisdom:
"An empty mind with no craving and no expectation helps us letting go.
Being in the world and not of the world, we attain heavenly grace.
With heavenly grace, we become pure and selfless.
And everything settles into its own perfect place."
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 3)
With an empty mind, you begin to look at everything with totally different perspectives,
An empty mindset not only provides clarity of thinking, but also frees us from the many shackles of life that enslave us, keeping us in bondage without our knowing it. Are you the master or just a slave of your own life? Often times, we think we are masters of our lives and we are in total control, but in fact we are no more than slaves. You are the master only when you have complete control over your life, or rather your way of thinking. Remember, your mind controls you, especially your subconscious mind-what you do, or how you act and react in different circumstances and situations in life.
How do you gain or re-gain control over your life in terms of your career, human relationships, time management, and daily stress, among others? It is not easy because most of us have a pre-conditioned mindset that we must do this and do that in order to succeed in life.
To illustrate, in our subconscious minds, we want to do well, and, to do well, we must set life goals; to reach our life goals, we must exert efforts; after accomplishing one life goal, we need to set another higher one, and yet another one higher than the previous ones. In the end, our lives get more complicated and even out of control; as a result, we are no longer masters but only slaves to what we have accomplished for ourselves. As a further illustration, Lance Armstrong, the once-famous-and-now-disgraced cyclist, used performance-enhancing drugs to win his races in order to sustain his ego to win, which is compounded of his winnings, that ultimately brought about his own downfall.
With an empty mind, we live in the present. The past was gone. Never look back in anger or with regret. Only the present is real. Do what you can with what you have, but with no expectation -- unlike Lance Armstrong, who expected to repeat his winnings, and he did more than what was necessary. Let go of all expectations in life. Letting go holds the key to the art of living well, even at any age.
Tao wisdom teaches that all things follow a natural order: what goes up must also come down, just like life is inevitably followed by death.
Essentially, Tao wisdom shows you how to live a stress-free life. Remember, stress is the enemy of longevity. Let go of your ego-self to let God take over the control. Understandably, it's not that easy. But with both human and spiritual wisdom, everything is possible.
Tao wisdom with an empty mind is anti-aging. Live your life as if everything is a miracle to live to 100 and beyond.
Copyright© by Stephen Lau
THE WISDOM OF EMPTINESS
The essence of TAO is emptiness: having an empty mindset with no preconceived assumptions and presumptions; understanding that everything is impermanent and that nothing lasts forever.
Emptiness is NOTHINGNESS: we all come from dust, and into dust we shall all return. Nothing lasts, so the wisdom is to live in the NOW, which is a gift, and that is why it is called “present.”
Everything follows a natural cycle: what goes up must also come down; the day is always followed by the night - just like the four seasons.
Get the wisdom of LETTING GO of all attachments in order to live well, which is living in the present, instead of being haunted by the past or anticipating the future. Remember, only the present is real.
Copyright© by Stephen Lau
AN EGG A DAY TO KEEP YOUR EYE DOCTOR AWAY
If you want to maintain your vision health as you continue to age, eat at least an egg everyday.
Eggs are nutritious for vision health because they contain protein, fat, vitamins, and minerals necessary for healthy eyes, including the most common eye disorders, such as cataract and glaucoma.
Previously eggs were associated with high cholesterol, and therefore not recommended for those who were prone to heart diseases. But recently, research studies have found that eggs contain “good cholesterol” for healthy hearts, as indicated by a research study at the University of Connecticut that consuming three eggs a day showed a significant increase in the good cholesterol. Therefore, rethink the negative impact of eating too many eggs.
Egg yolks, organ meats, shellfish, and whole-fat dairy products are good sources of dietary cholesterol, with little effect on blood cholesterol that may affect heart health.
Eggs are particularly rich in lutein and zeaxanthin, which are needed by your eyes to avoid age-related degenerative eye diseases.
Egg yolks contain choline, an essential nutrient for the brain and the immune system.
Eggs from free-range chickens are particularly rich in omega-3s.
Eggs may also help weigh management (feeling fuller) and combating cancer.
Consume eggs on a daily basis, and this may keep your eye doctor away.
Of course, there are other nutrients, such as carotenoids, vitamins A and C, and coconut oil, which are all to vision health.
Stop your vision loss!
Copyright© by Stephen Lau
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Lao Tzu: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step." Take the first step; never PROCRASTINATE!
Life is a natural cycle-life is followed by death, just as day followed by night. Nothing lasts. Learn to let go.
Lao Tzu: “Live in the NOW.” The past was gone, the future is yet to come; only the present is real. It’s a gift; that’s why it is “present.”
If happiness is to be found in things that are outside, instead of inside, yourself, you may have easily become unhappy and depressed.
Albert Einstein: “Thinking is difficult; that is why so few people do it.” To become wiser, you must do your thinking, and do it often.
”That which shrinks
Must first expand.
That which fails,
Must first be strong."
Everything follows a natural cycle, so accept and embrace.
Spontaneity is the essence of the natural cycle. What goes up must eventually come down; life begets death.
Intuition of spontaneity is knowing the impermanence of all things: nothing lasts no matter how we strive to keep the impermanent permanent.
Embracing everything is wisdom because it holds the key to enlightenment, which is TAO wisdom.
If Tao wisdom could be summarized in one word, it is the word "humility."
Humility is the enemy of the ego.
Don't avoid depression, which we all have. The wisdom is to experience it by going through it to become enlightened.
Depression is no respecter of persons: we all have it to a greater or lesser degree. Medications don't help; they intensify the dependence.
Margaret Wander Bonanno: "It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day-to-day basis." It is the wisdom of living in the NOW!
Gratitude is life-changing because it involves mindfulness, which is the essence of sustained happiness. Do some volunteer work!
Your EGO wants you to become better than others. In the process, it stresses you, making you unhappy.
SCIENCE OF HAPPINESS ABOUT MARRIAGE AND PARENTING
Most Americans still want to get married, not just because of legally binding themselves to one another, but because of marital bliss and happiness. According to the science of happiness, married people tend to the wealthier, healthier, and more sexually fulfilled than unmarried people. Of course, there are many exceptions.
Marriage can-but not should-make you happy. What you need to do is to invest a lot of time and energy into your marriage to make you happy by turning it into a journey of self-discovery and personal growth. In other words, a good and happy marriage brings out the best in each other, and thus instrumental in bringing happiness.
According to several studies, those who are wealthy and educated get divorced much more than those who struggle financially; also, splitting happens more frequently later in life than they once were. They are the realities of marriage.
A good marriage makes you healthier and happier. Marital bliss lasts longer than the happiness of unmarried couples.
The Science of Happiness about Parenting
Parenting may bring you satisfaction only if you are intentionally starting a family. But parenting is undertaking a difficult new venture fraught with many responsibilities, which are often very unpredictable. In addition, you are also forfeiting a lot of things that made you happy in the past.
Economist Andrew Oswald once said: “It’s not that children make you less happy; it’s just that children don’t make you more happy.”
But, according to a team of Californian psychologists, “overall, parents report happier, more satisfied, and thinking more about the meaning in life than non-parents do.”
Given that children create more work for those who love them, young parents, single parents, and moms may not find happiness in bringing up their children.
If you are thinking of having kids to make you happier, think again! A parent’s first job is not to raise kids, but to enjoy them.
Human happiness has much to do with human wisdom. Get the Happiness Wisdom.
Copyright© 2018 by Stephen Lau
SAMPLING TAO WISDOM QUOTES
Simplicity is the first step towards detachment, which is the key to unlocking the door to happiness. Live a simple lifestyle, deleting all the trimmings of life and living.
Attachment to all the trimmings of life and living boosts the ego, leading to pride, which is one of the Seven Deadly Sins. Humility, the opposite of pride, holds the key to having a good relationship with the Creator, without which, there is no enlightenment, and hence no wisdom to the secrets of the universe and the mysteries of the realm of creation-the manifestations of all things created.
"Simplicity is clarity.
It is a blessing to learn from those
with humble simplicity.
Those with an empty mind
will learn to find the Way.
The Way reveals the secrets of the universe:
the mysteries of the realm of creation;
the manifestations of all things created.
The essence of the Way is to show us
how to live in fullness and return to our origin."
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 65)
Living in the present is an awakening to the realities of all things. That all things follow a natural cycle or order, which is beyond human control. Living in the present affords us an opportunity to look more objectively at any given situation, allowing our minds to think more clearly, to separate the truths from the half-truths that might have led us astray all along.
According to Lao Tzu, only the present is real: the past was gone, and the future is uncertain and unpredictable. When the mind stays in the present, it does not see the ego-self because it does not exist in the present, and only in the deceptive mind.
"Living in the present moment,
we find natural contentment.
We do not seek a faster lifestyle,
or a better place to be.
We need the essentials of life,
not its extra trimmings." Lao Tzu
According to Lau Tzu, good and evil exist side by side.
“With the fall of man, good cannot exist without evil.
Man is born with virtues, but grows up with vices.
Likewise, life and death complement each other.
Heaven is eternal life; hell is everlasting death.
Human existence is therefore dualistic:
it can make heaven out of hell, or hell out of heaven.
Faith and lack of faith go along with each other.
The first will be the last, and the last will be the first.”
(Lao Tzu, “Tao Te Ching”, chapter 2)
Suggested Bible verses for further reflection:
“For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out.” (Romans 7: 18)
“See now that I myself am he!
There is no god besides me.
I put to death and I bring to life,
I have wounded and I will heal,
and no one can deliver out of my hand.” (Deuteronomy 32: 39)
“Furthermore, tell the people, ‘This is what the Lord says: See, I am setting before you the way of life and the way of death.” (Jeremiah 21: 8)
The bottom line: Given the dualistic existence of man, we should rely not just on human wisdom, but also on Biblical wisdom; as a matter of fact, human wisdom is forever inadequate and imperfect; therefore, it has to be enhanced and enlightened by God’s wisdom, which is infinite and perfect.
Copyright©2018 by Stephen Lau