Living in TAO

Stephen Lau
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Living in TAO

Lao Tzu understands the difficulty and human challenge in putting his wisdom in practice and application:

“Can we embrace both fortunes and misfortunes in life?
Can we breathe as easily as innocent babies?
Can we see the world created as is without judgment?
Can we accept both the desirable and the undesirable?
Can we express compassion to all without being boastful?
Can we watch the comings and goings of things without being perturbed?
Saying ‘yes’ to all of the above is spiritual wisdom from the Creator,
who watches the comings and goings in the world he created.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 10)

Even spreading the Word to non-believers is a big challenge in itself.

“But spreading the truth about the Creator
may be unexciting and unattractive to many.
People prefer misleading distractions.
People love empty promises.
The truth about the Creator
is profound but unpopular.
Look at it; it is invisible.
Listen to it; it is inaudible.
Use it; it is inexhaustible.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 35)

With Tao wisdom, we just have to embrace that challenge and let the Creator take care of the rest.

“The more we understand the Way,
the less we need to convince others.
Those, who speak much,
know little about the Way.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 56)

To accept and overcome the great challenge in understanding human salvation and spreading His Word, humility once again holds the key to success.

“Seeing ourselves indiscriminately as everything, including success and failure, we see not only the manifestations but also the mysteries of the creation.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 13)

Stephen Lau

Copyright©2018 by Stephen Lau



Thanks to our artists, we all pretend well; but deep down the layer of pretense is the awareness of the underlying reality. To suppress that reality, we turn to controlling, which is a subconscious way to enhance the reality of our expectations in life.

Most of us are controlling to some extent. Thanks to our culture, underlying every one of us is the inherent belief that we should be in control of everything around us at all times. The American culture advocates control for self-independence and survival.

What exactly is controlling? Why makes people want to control others as well as their own destinies?

Controlling is a coward way of running away from everyday problems; it is a futile attempt to avoid everyday stress. Essentially, it is a direct or subtle way of exerting influence over others so that we may have power over the turns of events in our own lives. In other words, we delude ourselves into thinking that we can make things happen the way we want them to happen in our lives through control and manipulation of others, including ourselves.

Reflective Thought

Control and discipline may look similar but they are different.

Case in Point

We can discipline our children so that they may do the right things without getting into trouble. But many of us still want to “control” them even when they have turned adults; we may want to steer them away from the difficult paths we had trotted ourselves when we were young. That, in reality, is controlling. We can give them advice, but imposing anything on them is deemed as exerting control. “It’s for their own good!” is no more than an excuse to control.

Not controlling means willingness in letting go of one’s expectations in life.

Stephen Lau
Copyright©2018 by Stephen Lau


Living in Tao is living without over-doing. According to conventional wisdom, more is often better than less-the more you do, the more you will accomplish.

Tao wisdom emphasizes “wu-wei” (
??): “Wu” (?) means “no” and “wei” (?) means “doing.” Due to the literal translation of the original text, “wu-wei” is sometimes misinterpreted as “non-doing,” and therefore even regarded as a “passive” way of looking at life by Lao Tzu. “No over-doing” is a more appropriate translation of “wu-wei.”

Contrary to conventional wisdom, which focuses much on effort, Tao wisdom emphasizes "effortless" effort.

"The softest thing in the world
overcomes what seems to be the hardest.

That which has no form
penetrates what seems to be impenetrable.

That is why we exert effortless effort.
We act without over-doing.
We teach without arguing.

This is the Way to true wisdom.
This is not a popular way
because people prefer over-doing.
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 43)

Everything in this world happens with a reason, but we may not know the why; and everything follows a natural cycle, just like the four seasons. Spontaneity is one of the essentials of Tao wisdom.

Stephen Lau
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Following the natural cycle of all things, we do not need to pick and choose. Picking and choosing is only sickness of the mind: the futility in striving to control what is uncontrollable.

"People naturally avoid loss and seek gain.
But with all things along the Way,
there is no need to pick and choose.
There is no gain without loss.
There is no abundance without lack.
We do not know how and when
one gives way to the other.

So, we just remain in the center of things,
trusting the Creator, instead of ourselves.
This is the essence of the Way."
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 42)

Picking and choosing is synonymous with control of self, of others, and of everything around, which is against the laws of nature.

Controlling external events is futility.
Control is but an illusion.
Whenever we try to control,
we separate ourselves from our true nature.
Man proposes; the Creator disposes.
Life is sacred: it flows exactly as it should.
Trusting in the Creator, we return to our breathing,
natural and spontaneous, without conscious control.

In the same manner:
sometimes we have more,
sometimes we have less;
sometimes we exert ourselves,
sometimes we pull back;
sometimes we succeed,
sometimes we fail.

Trusting in the Creator, we see the comings and goings of things,
but without straining and striving to control them.
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 29

Tao wisdom is to embrace all, instead of choosing and picking this and that.

"Good fortune and misfortune are all in one.
Seeking one and rejecting the other,
we become completely confused.
Striving for goodness and righteousness,
we become evil and wicked."
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 58)

Tao wisdom, however, does not imply there is no free will or freedom of choice.

Not picking and not choosing is living in Tao.

Stephen Lau

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Letting Go Is the Way to Go

“Letting go is emptying the mundane,
to be filled with heavenly grace.

Blessed is he who has an empty mind.
He will be filled with knowledge and wisdom from the Creator.
Blessed is he who has no attachment to worldly things.
He will be compensated with heavenly riches.
Blessed is he who has no ego-self.
He will be rewarded with humility to connect with the Creator.
Blessed is he who has no judgment of self and others.
He will find contentment and empathy in everyone.

Letting go of everything is the Way to the Creator.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, chapter 9)

“Not of the world” means letting go of all mundane matters in the physical world.

Attachment only reinforces your identification with the world, while detachment empties your mind of its invisible control and manipulation. Letting go is the beginning of humility.

With humility, comes enlightenment, and letting go becomes simple and spontaneous.

Stephen Lau       
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Anything Is Everything
Everything Is Nothing
Nothing Is Everything

by Stephen Lau

This newly published book explains the paradoxes of life: what "anything is everything" may be true to some people, but not to every one; "everything is nothing"  is the reality of life, which is the impermanence of everything; "nothing is everything" is the profound wisdom to understand that the nothingness of everything may ultimately become everything if there is enlightenment in living as if everything is a miracle.

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Our Sinful Side

“The mind is its own place, and in itself, can make heaven of Hell, and a hell of Heaven.” John Milton

It is the mind that makes the body and the soul-the being of an individual. Unfortunately, the mind also has its own darker side, which creates the darkness of life, and its negativity affects the real self involuntarily.

The darker side of life is a reality, not a myth, and that everyone has a darker side to his or her being. The darker side does not necessarily mean that it is something evil. Any connotation of evil may lead to denial, instead of acceptance.

For example, the sexual abuse of children by Jerry Sandusky, and the pedophilia in the Roman Catholic Church, as well as the Ponzi scheme of Bernie Madoff and the scams and rip-offs by some of Wall Street executives, are just some of the many examples of the extreme darkness of our society and culture ,, and more specifically, the sinful side of humans.

In spite of the human inclination to be good, we all show our own darker side every now and then-such as not expressing as much compassion and loving-kindness as we should to our fellow human beings, or telling a white lie-because we are imperfect, and, as such, all human behavior is imperfect.

The Bible calls the dark side of human nature “sin.” None of us is exempt from sin. Life is always an inner struggle between what is perceived in an individual’s moral system as “right” and the dark opposing force inside to do just the very opposite. To make matters worse, most of us are really quite good at self-deception. Either we deceive ourselves into believing that the dark opposing force does not exist in ourselves, or we simply inflate our own personal virtues to overshadow the dark force within us.

Tao wisdom is the essence in the art of living well. It is the profound wisdom of the ancient Chinese sage, Lao Tzu, the author of the immortal classic Tao Te Ching, one of the most translated works in world literature. The book has been popular for thousands of years due to its unconventional wisdom, which is simple but controversial, profound and yet intriguing. To fully understand it, you need to get all the essentials of Tao wisdom.

Tao wisdom shows us how to live in spite of our inadequacy, imperfection, and sinful nature.

Stephen Lau

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